Welcome to the final week+ of 30 days of positive parenting ideas! Congratulations on making changes to make your house a more positive place. If you missed the first three weeks, be sure to check them out (they build off of week 1):
As parents, we all want our children to be raised in a house full of love and support. Sometimes it can be hard to be the positive parent we always envisioned ourselves being, at least it is for me! Start with the little things such as trying to yell less and you’ll find other things falling into place. In an effort to be more positive, this is week four (and more!) of positive parenting tips. Some of these ideas might seem simple, some you might already do, but all of them are positive. Ideally, each day can build on each other so by the end of the 30 days, you’re house will be a happier, more positive place! Start with weeks one, two and three to build on some basic positive suggestions, moving onto week four. I suggest bookmarking the articles or printing them out so you can keep track of which day you are on, working through the list.
Find something positive your child did today and point it out. But instead of saying, “I’m so proud of you”-say “You must be very proud of yourself.” This gives your child ownership in what he or she did that they should be proud of while letting them know you recognize their hard work.
As a family, sit down and make a “bucket list” for the year of things you want to accomplish as a family. Include simple things such as go kite flying together or blueberry picking. Let everyone have a say in the list and don’t put anyone down for their ideas. Hang up your bucket list and check things off as you accomplish them as a family.
Try to avoid punishments of any kind today. Look for the positive in what your child is doing, redirect that energy and find another way to channel it. This is HARD!
As soon as you get home from work, set aside all electronics and give your child your full attention for 10 minutes. They might be playing, doing homework, or having a snack. But give them 100% of your attention for 10 minutes.
Plan a movie night together. This is just the planning stages and it’s fun! Let your child pick a movie (if you have more than one child, you’ll have to come up with a rotation plan for who can pick a movie for movie night). Create personalized movie tickets together, putting the date, time and location of the movie (for example, a ticket might read: Come see Brave Friday night, living room, 6:00-popcorn and pizza will be served). Then, follow through that Friday! Make sure everyone comes and that no one is on their phone, tablet or computer during movie night!
How is the not yelling going? Are you still saying I love you every day?Put a note in everyone’s lunch today reminding them of how special they are. Maybe add some stickers or something to personalize the note. Kids love getting notes in their lunch boxes at school or even just a note brought to them with their lunch at home (if your kids are home with you).
Spend the day recognizing things you and your family appreciate. Throughout the day, if you appreciate something, say, “I appreciate how you put your shoes on to get ready for school.” or, “I appreciate the way you let your brother use the bathroom first this morning.” Tell your children you’d like to hear at least 3 things they appreciate by the end of the day as well.
Set aside a time for siblings to play together today, uninterrupted. If your child is an only child, you are the playmate. Spend 30 minutes of free play time between siblings, letting them work out their conflicts without adult interruption. Tell them that this is a no yelling time. If you are the playmate, do not immediately give in or solve all the conflicts during play. Allow your child to try some problem solving on his or her own.
Take pillows, blankets and cushions and make a big pile in the living room. Have each child say something they love about another person in the family, then run and jump into the pile of softness. Take turns and play until everyone is tired of playing. What a great way for us to hear positive things about each other!
This is such a work in progress–parenting that is. No one has it perfect and everyone is trying their best. If you have tips to share on how you’ve created a positive household, please share with our readers!