Dear Birth Mom,
I am not sure if you know this, but I think about you a lot. How could I not? Every day, I have the privilege of parenting three beautiful little boys who share so many of your features. Each time I look at them, I am reminded of how important you are to our family. I cannot even find the right words to explain just how appreciative I am. Even though we talk a lot, I am always a little hesitant to get too emotional in our conversations. I’m not sure if it’s fear, or what, but I get nervous to dig too deep.
With that said, I really want to share a few thoughts with you. I feel like you deserve to know how I feel.
First, you are loved. When we began the adoption process in 2010, I had no idea what to expect in a relationship with our birth mom. After five years, you are so much more than “birth mom” to us. You are family. When you experience hardships, I hurt. When you succeed, I celebrate. I am so grateful we were placed together.
Second, you are amazing. You have overcome a lot in your life. Sure, you’ve made some poor choices, but you know what, so have I. We all have. It isn’t about the mistakes you make, it is about what you do to move beyond those choices. You very easily could have chosen another path when you found out you were pregnant. But you didn’t. You chose to bring life into this world. You chose to bless us with the gift of that life. Not everyone could (or would) make that choice. I absolutely love that you have remained in touch with our family over the years. You don’t realize how much I love getting your texts. It brings me so much joy when you check in with us or send your love.
Finally, you are forever part of our family story. I promise that our boys will always know who you are and how much you love them. My hope is that they never have to wonder about their adoption story because it is something that is openly discussed in our house. It is a story based on love and faith. While their stories include grief and sadness, I hope they are able to focus on the many positive parts. I also promise that we will continue to visit with you whenever possible. We want nothing more than to have you remain in our lives.
Thank you for giving us the family we were not able to have on our own. Thank you for loving us. Thank you for being you!
I love you,