After the hustle and bustle of a long school or work day, sometimes it feels like I don’t know my left foot from my right foot—much less what my child’s day was about. It can be hard to find time in the evening to have meaningful conversations. Dinner on the go rushing one child to dance class, another to music lessons and another to a soccer game.
Bedtime is a time when families can finally unwind, relax and spend a few minutes snuggled up together, even after the busiest of days. But where do you start with questions to ask your child at bedtime about their day? You don’t want to spend all night talking, but at the same time you want your child to open up to you. Part of asking questions that parents (and people in everyday situations!) don’t realize is that sometimes it’s just as important to listen and acknowledge as it is to have a lengthy conversation. Offering an open ear to your child, comfort, and feedback makes for perfect bedtime conversation. You can always talk more tomorrow!
Try these 5 questions to ask your child at bedtime and see what you might learn about your child:
- What do you plan to do tomorrow to make it a great day for you?
This is a really simple question that starts to get children thinking about the future from an early age. Sure, the future is only tomorrow. But they are goal setting and thinking of the future in a positive light.
- Who did you have the most fun spending time with today or did enjoy playing alone today?
Sometimes your child might say they had the most fun spending time alone. Is that OK? Sure! It’s important to let your child know that it’s alright to play with other people and/or alone.
- If you could dream about anything, what would your dream be?
This question is so fun! It is great to hear what creative answers your child will come up with. In today’s school, there isn’t as much of a chance for creative play, but a child’s mind is still so full of imagination.
- What is something you are thankful for today?
What a perfect time to start talking being thankful and appreciative!
- Was today a good day? Is there anything I can do to make tomorrow better for you?
This is a nice way to let your child know that you think he or she is important to you. You are taking the time to value their needs and emotions.
Do you have any conversations you have had at bedtime that have left a lasting memory to share?